Understanding Moods and Disappointment in Adults
Adults can experience a range of emotions, from irritation to disappointment, without something being wrong. It's important to trust in their capability to deal with life, rather than trying to fix their mood.
Dr. Nicole LePera
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You're not responsible for other people's emotions.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 17, 2023
You can stop feeling like something is wrong with you if someone else is in a bad mood.
Reminders If You Emotionally Monitor People: -
1. Adults can be in a mad mood without something being wrong: being irritated, in a bad mood, or just feeling down is a natural part of being human.
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2. Another person's mood isn't something to fix: if you feel a sense of anxiety or panic come over you when someone is in a negative mood become aware of this. Ask once: "do you need any support?" If they say no, allow them to have space.
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3. Adults can be disappointed: when things don't go as planned or someone is let down, that's ok. Adults are capable of being disappointed. Sometimes the best way to support someone is to trust in their capability to deal with life.
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4. Become a witness: witnessing someone's emotions is different than absorbing them. Say to yourself: "I notice they're a bit down or off. I can see they are taking time for themselves. I can feel differently and go about my day."
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5. Change rooms: if you feel like you're absorbing someone's emotional energy and it's too distracting, take yourself into a different room or get some time outside. Do something enjoyable or relaxing so you don't go into rumination.
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6. If they have an issue, they'll come to you. If they don't assume there is no issue: mature adults come to someone when they have an issue. Do not reward passive behavior, or try to pull things out of people. Trust their ability to communicate.
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7. Be compassionate with yourself: people who are in the habit of emotional monitoring generally had to caretake a parent, were the family peacemaker, or lived in fear of a person's reaction. Be kind to you as you unlearn this survival instinct.
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