How To Get Real And Find Love: 3 Unrealistic Expectations To Let Go Of
In relationships, unrealistic expectations can be a major source of disappointment. Here are 3 common unrealistic expectations to let go of to help you find love and get real.
Dr. Nicole LePera
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Most relationships end because of unrealistic expectations.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
How To Get Real And Find Love: -
Unrealistic expectation #1: My partner should always be emotionally unavailable.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Life will ebb and flow. At times, they will be less available to us and will be called inwards. That's ok and a natural part of relationships. -
Unrealistic expectation #2: My partner should always take my side.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Relationships reveal parts of ourselves that are confronting and need healing. A partner isn't a "yes" person. They will challenge you. This is how you grow. -
Unrealistic expectation #3: My partner should just know what I need.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Our partners aren't meant to read our minds. If we have a need, it's our responsibility to communicate that. -
Unrealistic expectation #4: True love is easy.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Relationships are tough. Humans come with traumas, different perspectives, and different needs. It will take work to negotiate these need and to consistently learn each other. -
Unrealistic expectation #5: My partner won't be attracted to anyone else if they love me.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Attraction is biological and doesn't shut down in partnership. A partner with integrity will have boundaries and discipline around their attraction. -
Unrealistic expectation #6: My partner should adore me and focus all their attention on making me happy.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
This is codependency. Authentic love provides support, mutual need meeting, and outside support and passions. -
Unrealistic expectation #7: Our relationship should be 50/50
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Relationships mean give and take. Somtimes your partner will carry 80% of the load. Other times you will. Open communication and acknowledgement are key. -
Unrealistic expectation #8: Marriage will change things and let me feel more secure.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
Marriage doesn't change any relationship dynamics. It also doesn't change people. Marriage is an opportunity to commit to building a life with someone. -
Which of these resonates most?
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 5, 2023
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