Breaking Free From Urgency Culture
Urgency culture is a conditioned belief that we should be available at all times to be everything for everyone. This blog provides advice on how to break free from this culture and create boundaries for yourself to make intentional choices.
Dr. Nicole LePera
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Put your phone on silent. Respond when you have the energy. You don't need to be on call 24/7.
— Dr. Nicole LePera (@Theholisticpsyc) June 25, 2023
How To Break Free From Urgency Culture: -
Urgency culture is conditioned belief that we should be available at all times to be everything for everyone.
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Urgency culture looks like:
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-feeling pressured to immediately respond
-making impulsive fear-based decisions
-feeling guilty or wrong for having downtime -
Our nervous system can only take in a specific amount of stimulation in a day. We need to have the time and space for quiet, stillness, and non-response in order for our nervous system to recover.
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Urgency culture leaves no space for recovery. Instead we're expected to be constantly connected. This is why it's important to create boundaries with yourself and give yourself the space and time to make intentional choices.
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4 Ways To Break Free From Urgency Culture:
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1. Have phone downtime: have times or periods where your phone is on silent and you're not available. With practice, you'll see that it's fine to be away and you can respond when you're back "online." -
2. Explain your communication patterns: let people you're in close contact with know that you do take time and space away. Not everyone is used to people with boundaries, so it's important to communicate this.
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3. Learn to process *before* responding: some messages might be emotionally activating or require some thought before you respond. Take some deep breaths, let the emotions pass. Then, respond.
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4. Be clear around expectations: if someone is pressuring or guilting you to be in contact and not understanding your space, you'll need to be assertive. You are allowed to have down time and to meet your own needs.
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How to does urgency culture show up in your life?
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