A Simple Framework to Increase Your Influence
School doesn't teach you how to influence people. Here's a simple framework to increase your influence: perspective taking, putting yourself in their shoes, seeking to understand their perspective, and finding solutions that work for everyone.
![Author profile image](https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/1608596793692147712/YSIuuYrm_normal.png)
Clint Murphy
I simplify psychology, success and money by sharing advice from millionaires, expert authors and my life.
![Header media for article](https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Fs4OBRVaMAEE93T.png)
-
You can't be an effective leader without the ability to influence others.
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
But, school doesn't teach you how you can influence people.
Here's a Simple Framework to Increase Your Influence: -
This thread is based on my conversation with @carlacmiller on the Growth Guide Podcast.
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Carla's written an excellent book: Closing the Influence Gap - A Practical Guide for Women Leader's.
If you like what you read you can find the link's to Carla's work in our show notes. pic.twitter.com/MTFUkzTSOr -
• Perspective Taking
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
To influence others, you need to:
• Put yourself in their shoes
• Seek to understand their perspective
Rather than make them feel wrong, validate their concerns and objections.
Ultimately, find solutions that work for everyone. -
• Communication Styles
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
When you're dealing with senior leaders, gather information on their:
• Communication styles
• Language preferences
When you mirror their communication style and speak their language, it will help you:
• Build respect
• Establish a connection -
• Avoid Perfection
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Don't strive for perfection.
Accepting your imperfections can actually make you more likable and relatable.
A professional coach can help you identify and shift your limiting beliefs that drive the urge to work too hard to be perfect. -
• Personal Leadership Brand
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Women struggle to own their strengths.
They don't state what they're good at due to societal messages.
To improve this,
• Create a personal leadership brand
• Be intentional about how you show up -
• Words Matter
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Women often use disempowering phrases in meetings, such as:
• Caveatting
• Qualifying statements
Use empowering phrases or ask questions instead of making statements to sound more authoritative.
End strong with powerful body language! -
• Authority and Gravitas
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Authority and gravitas are important leadership traits that can be developed.
Authenticity and credibility are more important than sounding masculine.
It's about owning your space and being confident and credible. -
• Intentional Meeting Approach
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Prior to a meeting, it's important to set intentions and visualize how you want to be perceived.
Use Power poses and listen to power music to help boost your confidence.
These actions will make a significant difference in how you’re received. -
• Reframe Your Beliefs
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Self-doubt and imposter syndrome can hold you back from being a confident leader.
You can access your inner leader when you recognize your inner critic and reframe the beliefs that don’t serve you. -
• Radical Responsibility
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
Radical Responsibility is the hallmark of successful managers and leaders.
Don’t be a victim or a complainer.
Initiate change and proactively solve problems.
Employers highly value job candidates who demonstrate Radical Responsibility. -
9 lessons to Increase Your Influence you won't learn in school:
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
• Words matter
• Reframe beliefs
• Avoid perfection
• Take perspectives
• Radical responsibility
• Communication styles
• Authority and Gravitas
• Personal leadership brand
• Intentional meeting approach -
This has been a "cheat sheet" on how to increase your influence in the workplace.
— Clint Murphy (@IAmClintMurphy) April 4, 2023
If you got value from this thread, return the favor:
1. Follow @IAmClintMurphy
2. Retweet the 1st Tweet
3. Listen to the convo
A link to the Podcast is in my Bio.https://t.co/h9PvyntDC8